Empath vs. Narcissist: The Narcissist – Empath Paradigm

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I. My Damned Disclaimer

I am not a therapist.
I am not a licensed practitioner.
I don’t know you personally.
I don’t know your situation.
I am a Spiritual Counselor.
I am an Empath who has been victimized by Narcissism in some form or fashion.
I am certain that educating yourself in Narcissism can help you deal with it.
I am co-signing that Narcissism is a Personality Disorder.
I am acknowledging that Narcissism doesn’t mean the person is crazy, but it sure as hell doesn’t help the argument.

If you are in a extreme situation where you feel:

  1. You are mentally abused and are unable to cope
  2. You are in a situation where trying to get out puts your personal safety at risk

Please seek professional or in some cases, legal help. Your safety is first.

II. Empath and Empathism

What is an Empath?
“A person that has an abnormal perceptive sense of the emotional needs of those around them. An empath may cry when they see someone else crying, may mimic the mannerism of those they come in contact with, and might even preemptively know how to show support for a person before ever talking to them.”

The Purpose and The Path
The Empath’s purpose to is to serve the people with their fraction of Divine positivity. They may be in First Responders, Counselors or Therapists, Reikis or Yogis, or a really high vibrating person that loves to help others.

What Makes an Empath a Target?
Here is where we will use the 4 E’s of Narcissism. In no particular order, these are: Ease, Exploitativeness (yes that’s a word), Envy, and Entitlement. These apply to empaths especially because Empaths will pretty much just offer up the access. In their nature,

EASE – Empaths can’t work without giving those they care for access to them. Think about it. Empaths are usually: easy to talk to, easy to seek out for advice, and easy to motivate to help.

ENVY – Good energy promotes good energy, so it’s not uncommon to find Empaths living life in the wealth of life. That could be wealth in health, wealth in self, and/or financial wealth. Jealousy and the various levels associated with it are Narc triggers. Sometimes, people are just so flat out miserable with themselves and their self-inflicted wounds, that they see the Empath and want that life. In any form or fashion. If they can’t achieve it, the next best option is to manipulate the Empath and use it or destroy it. Which leads to the next E in the list….

EXPLOITATIVENESS (which I maintain is a real word) – Now that the Narc sees you as a potential target because you have any of several forms of wealth that can either be used or destroyed. They also see that even with this wealth, you’re still willing to be all open with them and shit. Willing to let them in close. Remember, Narcissism looks for it own gains first, so it doesn’t see your giving nature as a good person. They just see their own personal opportunity. So that’s 2 of the E’s: Easy and Envy. Now that that’s been established, you’ve been deemed as “Exploitable”.

*This concept is why I have a deeply rooted dislike of the word: “Blaxploitation”. At a really high level, a group of Narcissists with a camera found a group of Empathic Souls full of talent and willing to teach. From that moment on, those Empathic Souls were exploited daily… “To this day!” — Deontay Wilder.*

For the sake of creeping you out, you became a whole recon mission. They started to compile data, track patterns, and invade your privacy in any way possible by their means to learn about you. This is why they make great Detectives! 🙂 Anyway, a plan is then formed against you. Why? Because they feel the last “E” in the list…

ENTITLEMENT – This could also be seen as “privileged” or feeling as though they have the right to have what the Empath has or the right to have access to it. If Envy is the ugly little green energy that comes out, then Entitlement is the dookie green cousin energy that is seen within a Narc. This turtle head pokes itself out of people in a few different venues

* FAMILY – Often feel that because you’re related to them, they should have access to you or whatever you have that they want.

* FRIENDS – Feel that since you 2 have been down since forever that they should have access to you on whatever you have. Sometimes presents itself in the ” 1 Quid 1000 Pro Quo” format. This is where you hear “Remember that one time I did that thing” for 1000 favors in return.

* RELATIONSHIPS – Feels that because they’re your partner, they have access to you and all of you.

* WORKPLACE – This can be represented in the form of power or in form of a bully minded situation.

*THE WORLD AROUND US – It’s everywhere.

III. Narcissism

What is a Narcissist? (Narc for short)
Sidenote: …And no, I didn’t choose to use Narc in this article to try and substitute for the more wide spread usage of the word “narc”. So don’t think I’m trying to get you off the hook, ya Narc.

Nar-cis-sist: (noun) – Narc for short
Definition: A person who has an excessive admiration of themselves.

Narcissist Personality Disorder: A mental health condition in which people think highly of themselves obsessively and need all the attention or want people to admire them. Seeking out these things lead to a mirage of smoke, mirrors, and overzealous manipulations. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others.

Narcissists have an extreme need to VALIDATE themselves and an extreme desire to INVALIDATE you or those they need to persuade.

Things to look for: (will be explained later)
– A grandiose ego
– Extreme needed to be admired
– Vanity or the obsessive need to shame those they feel they look better than
– Lack of empathy, literally. They’re an Empath in reverse.
– Extreme jealousy and/or feel others are jealous of them.
– Guilt tripping
– Full out gaslighting
– Looking to involve you in triangulation

The Narc Acronym: S.P.E.C.I.A.L.M.E.

  1. Sense of self-importance
  2. Preoccupation with power, beauty, or success 
  3. Entitled
  4. Can only be around people who are important or special
  5. Interpersonally exploitative for their own gain
  6. Arrogant
  7. Lack empathy
  8. Must be admired
  9. Envious of others or believe that others are envious of them

    Credit to: (From <https://www.dukehealth.org/blog/9-signs-of-narcissistic-personality-disorder> )

IV. Types of Narcissists (Narcs for Short)

14. Overt Narcissist – (Most common) – “You aint gotta lie to kick it”
This is your standard, run of the mill, everyday Narc. Just a mf with an inflated ego going around telling lies and exaggerating experiences. They really feel like they are just flat out more important than you, Empath. They never see their flaws or offer an apology as most Narcs, don’t even acknowledge themselves as being f’d up in the first place.  Usually these Narcs will be the life of the party, with all the charisma and charm but little to no emotional reciprocation.

***Real Shit Note: It is very important to understand that Life is all about binary balance. That means every side has to be equal to preserve equilibrium. Understand that the same goes for empath vs narcissist. I mean this about YOU (the reader). I will point out why I’m saying this now, at the end of the list.***

13. Covert Narcissist – “The Narc you didn’t see coming”
Also known as the “Closet Narc”, this narcissist will not appear narcissistic to the naked eye. This may look like someone that just doesn’t believe in themselves, but this comes from their own jealous need to always compare themselves to others’ happiness and successes. (Remember, jealousy is an immediate narcissistic pitfall). These people will appear to be shy, reserved, and lacking self-appreciation. I see this as a bit of the “crab in a barrel” mindset as this person will try to convince you that you’re doing too much. This done to make you dumb yourself back down to the limits of their ego. No surprise here, that this narc has the highest level of suicide amongst Narcs.  All that self-loathing.

12. Hypervigilant Narcissist – “I feel like you’re talking shit about me” Hypervigilance is always being on the lookout for threats. (Sound familiar?) This type of Narc is always on the defensive waiting for you to throw sneak disses or punchlines to the head. You will most likely find yourself walking on eggshells when trying to talk to this person. They also have an extreme fear of rejection (its worth noting here that nearly 93% of all men fear rejection from a woman and this is normal, but the response to it is what makes the Narc). Their need to always be on the lookout for criticism can make it hard for this person to enjoy a social setting.

11. Grandiose Narcissist – ” It’s like Narcissist Personality Disorder with pepper”
I want to wish you the best of luck with this Narc. They somehow found a way to take the normal inflated Narc ego, amplify it X 10, and fit it back into their human body as Super-Ego. They are bigger than all of us, they above all of us, and they should have several Pagan holidays and a Day of Observance in their name. Even acts of Divine Intervention ain’t got shit on them.

***A megalomaniac is someone experiencing delusions of grandeur and an obsession with power. Megalomaniacal can be used for people that are convinced of their omnipotence and impose those beliefs onto others.***

10. Exhibitionist Narcissism –  “Here they go again acting stupid at the party”
This is just that. The person usually doing the absolute most at the party. To the initial eye this person may be the life of the party, but more often than not they may seem to be intoxicated or under the influence. Its important remember here that narcissists want attention.

9. Sexual Narcissism – “If you don’t have your mojo in check, you’re fucked”
These are the ones that feel like sex with them will just save your life. Somewhere between the average kewch/dick these people feel like their genitals are blessed with gold. Narcs like to manipulate, so guess what these sick mfs use? You guessed it. Usually this glorious sex with them is about their own sexual gratification with little regard for your well being. They expect you acknowledge their bedroom excellence and devote your whole life to them because of it. They struggle to get close with their partners.

*Hopefully, we understand the context here. A sexually narcissistic male can range from simply making sexualize comments at a woman in a effort to (and I don’t understand how) get here to surrender the cookies. The other end of the spectrum can lead to a more forceful and aggressive male that has taking his exploitation to the physical aspect. You know what I’m saying here, not trying to trigger anyone.  But….its a little bit different with the women. It’s not common to hear cases of women forcing themselves on men to the point of intercouse. What is common is women using their body to solicit a response from a man causing him to be sexually aroused. *

**********Nah, fuck that I’m goin in because I’m King enough to say this shit and stand by it. There are women that feel that they have a “healing vagina”. That statement has always confused me because as a man, I’m pretty sure that anything I can stick my dick into and create friction will cause me to eventually orgasm. Given the chemicals released at orgasm, one will agree that man is going to feel some sense of relieved pressure regardless. (They sometimes advise young surgeons to “handle” their biz before high pressure operations). With that being said, what exactly is a healing vagina? If you mean you allow a man to stress fuck his problems away, then I suppose you’re right. No problem there. The next time he gets stressed, he can just call you. And that will work out because life as a man is pretty damn stressful. Twice as much for a Black or Brown man in America. Yep you got that healing box. It’s a shame that that’s not how self healing works. In my own opinion, I low key feel like women that say that, have unhealed trauma themselves and want to project. Sorry, not sorry and I love you all. As a man, I’m telling you now…the “best” vagina is attached to the joyful, beautiful Soul that knows her worth to herself and her value to man (the world). When she cares about her temple and knows that temples aren’t churches (not everyone is allowed), that pH hits Cosmically Divine. All those that enter must appreciate her Temple and treat it with the care they would show their own. That’s not healing vagina, that’s “healed vagina” and that man will want to come to Temple to seek peace and serenity. Don’t be confused, even that vagina won’t heal the man, BUT that man will make sure he’s healed and peaceful before he steps lip on Holy Ground. It’s poetic as fuck actually. (End rant) ********* ahem ahem… back to the topic, my bad. Number….

8. Vindictive Narcissism – “You ate my food? Wait until 2 years from now…”
I self-title these Narcs as “Petty Betty’s”. Nothing gets past this Narc without some sort of vindication. It doesn’t always have to be something that was done directly to them. Noooo. Petty Betty will bring her petty ass around if you reject him/her, give criticism to him/her that they didn’t like, etc. It takes little to nothing to get this mf going. Insult to injury, they tend to hold on to the thing that brought out Petty Betty even if the responsible party apologies or tries to make amends.

7. Somatic Narcissism – “Seriously, get the fuck out the mirror”
Probably thought of as flat out vanity, this narcissist can’t peel themselves away from their mirrors. It’s not all vanity though as sometimes a somatic narc will obsess over what’s NOT right about their body and impose this insecurities on others. Also, you don’t want to be seen as unattractive by these people as they are quick to point out those they don’t find physically attractive or comparable to them. In a relationship, they will mentally and verbally abuse their partners by constantly diminishing their self esteem.

6. Cerebral Narcissism – “It’s Sheldon…well, being Sheldon but not as smart”
This Narc is actually pretty intelligent. Full of information that most people don’t know and more than willing to share it. They are quick to let you know what they know and just how below their intellect you are. Remember Narcs love empaths that are a challenge and this mf sees the intelligent empaths are a prime target. Everything becomes a mind fuck and gaslighting is sure to occur. Most times than not though, this person ends up being well versed in certain topics while having the social IQ of a potato on a sidewalk. They also make EXCELLENT con-artists.

5. Spiritual Narcissism – “The Lord says you should actually contribute 20% this month!”. Ok,  I want so badly to air this topic’s ass out, but I won’t because we ain’t here for that. Needless to say, if you’ve ever had someone try to manipulate your life choices with scriptures or any other religion/Spirituality, they were Narc’n. Even the Gods(God) doesn’t impose on our free will. Do you. Viva mas.

4. Communal Narcissism – “Look at me, I help people and you should love me.” On a grand scale, the biggest case of this was Ellen Degeneres. You would have thought by her giving nature that this was the biggest philantropist in on Earth only to find that she actually treats everyone like second hand diapers. Remember, what drives the Narc is attention and popularity. Guess what? She got that idea from other talk show hosts that are philantropists too.

3. Antagonistic Narcissist – “You know what? Karen is a really shitty person.”
This Narc just had all kinds of bad vibrations to their energy. Honestly this person can exude any one of the aforementioned Narc traits to you. I mean really, they are just a bad energy. They can’t even say something positive. You will constantly be under some sort of narc tactic with them.

2. Malignant Narcissism –  “What do you get when 2 cyclones of Psycho merge?” I’ll tell you. This mf. A perfect storm of Narcissist Personality Disorder (NPD) and Anti-Social Personality Disorder. Just about all the ingredients of a narc with an extreme inability to have a social life of any kind, with any one. Even Grade A treatment and co-pays can’t help this one. They are easily angered given the facts that they can be in several narc energies at once or massively into 1. No action they commit is a bad action so physical violence is a quick go-to here. Listen, this is the Perfect Narcissist. 

And THIS is why I went on such a rant about the woman that thinks she has “healing vagina”. You cannot “fuck” a man into being a better man, this is a woman’s misconception. The only thing you’re doing is a) using your body as a stress reliever, b) becoming physically attached yourself, c) probably putting that 100% down on a certified Lunatic that is gonna go fruit bat shit crazy the 1st time he can’t have what he wants. You might be mad at my “healing vagina” comment, but you can’t tell me I’m lying to you right now. This is coming from a man’s mouth that has both healed himself and seen “Healed vagina”. You all are beautiful, but I had to handle my shit as a man 1st and fix myself to ever understand that. THE ONLY TRUE WAY TO HELP SOMEONE HEAL THEMSELVES IS TO MAKE THEM BE ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR OWN SHIT.

V. The #1 Worst Kind of Narcissist….*drums*….is not even a Narcisssist…..

Meet…”THE DARK EMPATH” – The Worst “Narc” on the board.
That’s right. The absolute worst Narcissist is actually a type of Empath called a “Dark Empath”. This is not a phrase I made up for shock, this is truly a thing and is truly worst of the worst. This is why I said in the beginning that one of the biggest trials for an Empath is not becoming Narcissistic. In my opinion, a true Empath can’t become a Narcissist but only a Dark Empath. This sleezy mf here has all the Empathic gifts: the clairvoyance, the ability to nurture, the emotional connection to the victim (remember Narcs don’t feel empathy), and lastly they have overlapping desires of nearly every kind of Narcissist.  We say Comedians love to make people laugh. It’s how they help to heal the world. But what if there was a Comedian that can not only detect when someone could really use the laugh, but does it only with the intent to get that person to false  validate them. Even worse, what if the comedian used jokes into body shaming someone into sex? What if they shamed them, only to get them to feel bad, only to detect when they made them feel bad so that they can use a manipulative tactic to persuade them into sex? That’s worse than Malignant Narcissism.

VI. Tactics of the Narc (and Dark Empath)

These slippery SOB’s have a whole bag full of gimmicks to try and catch you slipping. I’m only going to detail the more widely used methods here, but I could go on for days.

#9 – Love Bombing: “Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” — Robert Frost
This is when a Narcissist uses your affection and attention against you in order to control you. Showering you with compliments, always paying you attention, etc. The goal is to make you feel that “irresistible desire”. In a relationship, I’m sure this could be easy confused with healthy behavior. You have to look further into it though. I often advise people to tell their partner “NO” to something that they really want. Usually, this is sex because we know a Narc doesn’t like to be denied that which they desire. Someone really down for you will accept your No just like your Yes. Love-bombing isn’t limited to love and relationships, you can see it done in the workplace or even better with fake friends.

*It’s real easy to confuse love-bombing with true care and intention. Don’t focus on the action itself per se, pay attention to the requests that usually follow a love-bombing. As you perfect your Empathy, you will see false love with requests sooner.*

#8 – Mistake Tracking and Revenge: “…it is not easy angered, it keeps no record of wrongdoings.” — I Corinth 13:5

We know that this clearly is saying that real love doesn’t keep track of mistakes…in an attempt to USE THEM FOR MANIPULATION later. Love doesn’t manipulate, but it also never forgets. This will come out like, “Remember 12 years ago when you stepped on my toe in that club? You should get me some socks today.” Even though they used this same argument just 4 days earlier for some underwear, here we go talking about that thing you did again to guilt you into doing what they want. Manipulation. Don’t do what they want and they will add that to the “Mistake List” and will most assuredly bring it up later when they do something petty to exact revenge for you not doing it.

#7: Playing the Victim – “It’s like #8 with an espresso”

  Not to be outdone, the Narcissist will take mistake tracking a bit further here using their “pain” to manipulate those they see fit. Sure you both had an argument and hurtful things were said….but how did you end up apologizing to them and they were just too torn up to reciprocate that apology?  It doesn’t stop there, they could as far back as using childhood events to win the day.

#6: Gossip or Sewing Bad Seeds – “How can you like this dude? I saw him hanging this one girl. You know I’m better”.

  I think this one should be self-explanatory. We know the evils associated with gossiping, but when paired with #7 or #8 this can become a very powerful tool of manipulation. By using false truths to either plant a bug in your ear or either to force you to make a snap decision, this is a proven effective tool of the Narcissist.

#5: Projection – “Women ain’t shit but hoes and tricks.” “All these dudes ain’t nothing but dogs.”

Come on, we’ve all said this at some point. Its worse enough to say it at all because it suggests that the person saying it is still VERY much unhealed from their past experiences. When you start to apply generalizations that are triggers, you are on your way to some form of Anti-social personality disorder, in my opinion. It’s important to remember that you can’t project if you don’t have an audience. Whether it’s the projection of fear (Fearmongering) or ideals and logic (Programming), projection is a scalable manipulation tactic that can be done at the individual level or on a global scale. All depends on the audience, the manipulation is still there. It can be Level 1 which is a partner projecting for personal manipulation or Level 1000 which is at the News and Media scale. An example of this is music that discourages Black men and women from needing each other. Whether its “Don’t trust these h**s” or “I don’t need no n****”, disassociation was been projected.

#4: Overshadowing – “Casual coincidence or stalking??”

This one kind of blows my mind. Not sure how one can think that “if I pop up literally everywhere this person is, they will eventually want me back?” You know you’re aggravating this person, I’m not sure what makes them think that could ever make you want them back. Whatever it is, this tactic is usually ineffective, but never stops the narcissist from trying.

#3: 1 Quid, 1000 Pro Quo – “Quid (This) Pro Quo (For That). 1 of this for 1000 of that.”

This manipulation tactic usually involves that one thing they did and the need for you to do the 1000th thing for them to “even the score”. At it’s base this could be seen as guilt tripping since that’s the emotion they need to you to feel to give in.

#2: Triangulation Method – “All the girls at work stay hollering at me, but I come home to you every night”

As simple as this method sounds, it’s a very widespread and widely effective tactic. This method involves introducing a 3rd party person/thing in an effort to make you jealous and more willing to do whatever they want.  This is purely a manipulative tactic. It’s not always as obvious as physically bring another person into the mix, it could be as subtle as “always having a person trying to holler at them (a person that you usually know so that’ll you be even more jealous)”. Jealously is an ugly emotion and when used against you, will have you impulsively being used over and over again.

HONORABLE MENTION:  The Academy Award Performance – “Full snot, starfish flops on the floor, all out begging, etc”

This is usually the last act of a narc before things either take a turn for the better or the worst. This act should be done in front of an audience with popcorn and intermissions. Nothing is off the table here and you’re bound to see their best work. That person you once saw that never cried or showed much emotion now all of a sudden are just overran with emotion. If you wait in silence long enough, you’ll catch them sneaking a peek up at you to see if your Empathic ass has joined them for the ride. Don’t. In fact, leave. Since this is a last ditch effort, in some cases physical violence occurs afterwards. It’s apparent that this is the all or nothing approach.

#1 GASLIGHTING – “Nuh uh, you didn’t see me there at the party”  (Like you forgot what they look like)

Gaslighting is the go-to move for the Narcissist. Gaslighting is so effective that the more narcissist-minded entities use it to trick people into making all kinds of mistakes and decisions. This method causes the empath to break down mentally. This is where the mental abuse begins as the empath will slowly go crazy over time when exposed to this.

Scenario 1)
A: Who’s used condom that in the trashcan?
B: What condom are you talking about?
A: That one.
B: That aint mine, you put that there.
A: Why would I do that?
B: You always trying to catch me in something. It’s like you don’t trust me.
*Argument follows*
A: ***Wondering if they made the whole thing up***
B: *** uses any one of the previous mentioned Narcissist tactics in order to get forgiveness or elude the situation***

Scenario 2)
Five-Oh: We know you did it and you mine as well confess.
A: I did not do it.
Five-Oh: *after 19 hours of “Yeah you did” and other confusing tactics.
A: *in a state of mental anguish, falsely incriminates themselves*

VII. The Absolute Worst Relationship Ever

The Narcissist-Empath Paradigm (Scientific title)
This is relationship should not happen…
….if already happening, this relationship should not continue
….if already happening, and no end is in sight, then planning of an exit should be happening
…. If already happening, no end in sight, no plan being formed, then remember that you have the opposite but equal power than that which opposes you. Save yourself!

Hi! You may be in a bad situation with a narc right now and are forgetting (or maybe you never knew) a couple key points about Narcissists and Empaths.

  1. Narcs rarely, if ever, see the error of their ways. It usually takes divine intervention and that time schedule is not at the pace of Human ambition. It takes damaging the ego to do this and depending on the kind of Narc that you’re dealing with, DOING THAT CAN PUT YOU IN PHYSICAL DANGER. Sure you’d like to tell Mr/Ms Biz Narc E everything you want to tell them about themselves and try to damage that ego (empaths are the best roasters, because we usually laugh about everything anyway). But, that swift jab can send a malignant narcissist into a rampage and you don’t even need to energetically have that drama. The best answer is to find a way to distance yourself and let life (or in some cases, the law) be their spiritual guidance.
  2. Empaths always want to see the good in people. In several cases, an empath is the absolute last person to give up on someone and I understand it. Empaths always feel that a person can turn it around, if they just would drink water and believe in the themselves or dance around life in slippers made out of penny candy, or etc or etc. You know us. We do! At this time, please stop here and go re-read the first sentence in #1). It aint gonna happen! I know it sucks, because we think we can save the world but Nope!

*Pro Tip for the Empath 101 exam:
Q: How soon should an empath cut a cord?
A: Any non-disclosed time between the 1st red flag and exactly 17 minutes after they got you fucked up.
***Thank you

Why Forgiveness Almost Never Works (But works WONDERS for you!!)
First of all, I wanted soooo bad to say that “Why forgiveness NEVER works”. I heard so many Empaths all say in unison, “Well that means there’s still 1% of a chance”. I highly encourage your learn about Statistics and Probability. 1% is the chance you have of being struck by lightning (2% in Tampa or San Diego). “Well that means there’s still 1% of a chance” = “There’s a 99% chance that you’re gonna get fucked up homie”. Those are not good betting odds but it does mean your exit plan should be 99% ready to be executed at any given moment between the 1st red flag (thunder) and exactly 17 minutes after they got you fucked up (1st visually confirmed lightning strike). I feel that we “enable” Narcissist behavior by continuing to stay with the Narc. Think about it like this. If more Empaths cut cords with Narcs quicker, not only would the empath eventually become proficient at detecting Narc behavior but more Narcs would have to clean their shit up just to even have a stable relationship of any kind. Yes, chances are that Narcs will also get better over time but that is the very attrition of the Narcissist-Empathic Paradigm.

Where The “Game” Gets Lethal
I’m being honest when I say to you that, “I don’t see how this can end well”. It’s mathematically impossible since there’s only a 1% chance of success. Even with that 1% success, the damage to the Empath could just be incomprehensible, irreparable, and just F.U.B.A.R. It could take months, years, or decades to find their identities again depending on the damage.

 Its important to understand the what comes from abuse at any level. The list is not short by any means and most Empaths will leave these types of situations with some form of PTSD. Think about it. If it’s verbal abuse, say in the form of body shaming, the Empath will most likely leave that relationship with some sort of self-image issue. We all have experienced this at some point in our lives. Whether its from being picked on in school or a family member’s joke, its easy to have someone’s words send you down that road. If not re-aligned, that very Empath could become a Somatic or Sexual Narcissist down the line. A person that has experienced physical or sexual abuse may develop social anxieties or have a fear of going out the house altogether (Agoraphobia). This damage scales up too. In my opinion, the longer you stay in this situation to more the damage multiplies. This will intensify everything that comes out of it.

The #1 Narc tactic, again in my opinion, is Gaslighting.

[gaslighting] – an elaborate and insidious (subtle and gradual) technique of deception and mental manipulation, usually practiced by a single deceiver, or “gaslighter,” on a single victim over an extended period. Its effect is to gradually undermine the victim’s confidence in his own ability to distinguish truth from falsehood, right from wrong, or reality from appearance, thereby rendering him pathologically dependent on the gaslighter in his thinking or feelings.]

From <https://www.britannica.com/topic/gaslighting>

It’s not just in relationships. Gaslighting happens in interrogation rooms, examining rooms in an hospital, and just about any where someone wants to jedi mind trick another. Gaslighting in an interrogation room can lead to stress confessions where someone that actually is innocent will break down and inadvertently incriminate themselves.  In a medical examination room, gaslighting can lead to one receiving medical treatments that aren’t needed and usually aren’t cheap. When the victim breaks down, the damaged done is difficult to undo. Something else to think about whether it’s the interrogation room or the examination room, the victim is not exposed to the gaslighting there nearly as long as they can be in a 1 month to multi-year relationship. Remember, the damage scales up and amplifies with exposure time. The mental abuse incurred during an extended amount of time can be irreversible in some cases. For an example, I’ll use body shaming. If I body shamed you once, you might not think anything of it. If I did it once a day for a week, you’d eventually get tight about it and maybe want to have an altercation. If I did it once a day for a year, you’d eventually start to change your wardrobe or wear yourself out in the gym in an effort to gain my approval. However if I body shamed one of your body parts; I’d just find another because it isn’t about your body. It’s about mentally breaking you down to think less of yourself. If I did it everyday for 3 years, you’d still have issues with your body past our breakup. Without therapy and self-healing, some people NEVER come out that energy. That’s the insidiousness of Gaslighting. That subtle yet gradually damage that amplifies over time is like a shockwave. For an empath, one that feeds of energy but learns through love the damage is amplified even more. This is partially because the Empath will think they can change this person and end up giving their all to a person that will not reciprocate and will break them down in every phase of the game. This catastrophic damage can drive an Empath to a straightjacket (ever wonder why some of the mentally ill are some of the best vibes you can ever meet? until they get that trigger).  Beyond the straight jacket, this can lead to inclusion, reclusion, and most times than you can ever imagine…taking one’s own life. << see note >>

<< If you are having those kinds of thoughts, please keep somethings in mind.

DEALING WITH A NARC
Avoid confrontation: Narcs can be physically aggressive they start Narc’n. Its important to not send them into Darko Narco by having an altercation that you don’t need.
Set boundaries: It’s important to address the Narc’s behavior as early as possible and let them know when they’ve gone too far. It’s also to important to use tact when doing this.
Educate yourself: Learn more about Narcissist Personality Disorder and the behavior of the Narcissist. (hopefully, this got you started *wink*)
Don’t take what they say personally: Remember, Narcs say what they say in an effort to demean or manipulate. That means, that what they’re saying ISN’T true. They’re just trying to do the mindfuck. Shake that shit off. Even if by some crazy ass inclination that it is true, that comes from your self perception of “Truth”. You’re not seeing it clearly and they’re using it against you.
Seek out support: Again, it doesn’t have to be a therapist. Find someone you can BOTH listen to their stories like they listen to yours. There aren’t many people like this, but you’ll have an ear. Support groups work well too because people have to listen as well as they talk.
Avoid reinforcing narcissistic behavior: Never positively reinforce narcissist behavior. Never smile it off. Never make a joke about it. Never enable it. Narcissist relationships don’t usually start off physical as there are signs along the way that will indicate that you’re dating a McNutfuck.
Practice self-care: If you’ve been buying into the Narcissist bullshit, you need to practice self care and love on yourself like you never have before. Remember the Narc wants you to belittle yourself because it makes your more mallible or easier to manipulate. Love On Yourself. Amore Propé.

VIII. Bringing it Home