YOU CAN’T BE A HEALER IF YOU HAVEN’T FULLY HEALED…

This may be one of the biggest points that I have to make to Healers that I’ve worked with. We all have shown this in some capacity, ranging from generalized comments following a generically triggered episode.

Firstly, it’s important to clarify what I meant by “generically triggered episode” and the generalized behavior that follows the episode.

Using my own experiences here. I’m a guy that has experienced more than his fair share of disappointments and heartbreak love and relationships. I own it too; I’m an empath and empaths learn their lessons through love and relationships. It is what is and explains why true empaths have gone through EVERYTHING it seems. That’s another post though. There was a phase in my life where I went through the “All women are b’s and h’s”.  I’ve always been a King with a high vibe, but I didn’t realize my empathic gift and subconscious nature of being a person that others naturally turned to for advice and guidance, when asked for it of course. In several conversations, I’d use that go to phrase “All women are b’s and h’s”, or “I don’t trust any woman because they’re all this or all that”. It got to the point where no woman could interact with me without falling into the category of “B”, “H”, or Gold Digger. As I grew more spiritually and evolved more as a man/king/God I who called himself a “Healer”, I would learn the error of my ways and how I hurt those I came into contact with.

Here’s the problem with that mindset and why I say that the healer still has more self-healing work to do. Do you know how generalized it is to be triggered by a person’s gender? The world is nearly 50/50 when it comes to men vs. women. That means there’s at least a 50% chance that I will come into contact with a woman at some point in time. If something so general as gender triggers me and sends me in to the “All B’s aint shit” mode, how much of my day will I spend triggered? How will this affect me when I go into public? How will I act when I encounter this trigger?

The purpose of “triggers” is to be your red-flag alert system to tell you to disengage your empathic gift and cut cords with a narcissist. All women didn’t hurt me. All Melanated women did not hurt me. All melanated women with lighter skin did not hurt me. All melanated women with lighter skin under age of 40 didn’t hurt me. No, that one particular woman did with her own unique games and issues. The trigger for me in the future shouldn’t be the woman at all, but the specific behaviors that this woman showed. In the future, I will be able to recognize these extreme behaviors and cut cords from that narcissist. The purpose of this is so that I don’t waste my empath gifts on a narcissist, as cutting cords is essential for an empath.

Our energy is dynamic and always looking for connections. It’s how we find our way around this thing called life and find our soul tribe. It’s how we stay in tune with the universe (the one-song). Energy isn’t meant to be isolated. It’s meant to be cultured and expanded into something more. It’s important as an empath to not only protect your energy, but to know how to use it and equally more how to disconnect it cleanly when needed.

            Healers, more than anyone else, need to learn how to process their trauma and recover before attempting to heal others. The last thing you want to do is call yourself high-vibrational and then go sit in front of someone needing clarity while yelling generalized comments like “All men/women aint shit”. All you’re doing is transposing your own unhealed traumas and fears onto that individual. If you truly operate out of love and unity, why are you advocating against it anyway? Heal yourself. When you start making generalized comments and act on them with triggered behaviors and responses, you’re well on your way to becoming a low key Sociopath.

Written By: The AnkhGod
Written On: January 2023